Yesterday Jaclyn Friedman came to my campus to speak. She talked about rape culture, virginity as a commodity, and enthusiastic consent.
I enjoyed her talk and liked most of what she had to say. Some of it, specifically talking about boundaries and what finding and obeying your own boundaries means, made me uncomfortable but I liked that. Sometimes when I go see a feminist speaker, it gets boring because I just agree with everything they are saying. That wasn’t the case with Jaclyn.
I got the chance to ask her about the concept of enthusiastic consent when it comes to sex work, and I really appreciated her answer since it’s something I struggle with as a feminist. She talked about enthusiastic consent being an overarching theme in sex work. She said that she struggled with if sex work could ever be truly consensual because of power dynamics and economic coercion. I appreciated her honestly, because this is something I struggle with and I am intimidated to talk about it because I think most feminists have “figured it out”. It was nice to know I wasn’t the only one who was conflicted.