1. Has this word been used against a specific group of people in the past or is it being used against a specific group of people in the present? 
  • If no then you are allowed to use that word to describe yourself. 
  • If yes then move onto question two

2. Are you a part of the group the word has been used against?

  • If yes then you are allowed to use that word to describe yourself 
  • If no then you are not allowed to use that word to describe yourself. 
  • If “no, but!” move onto question three.

3. Are other people in the group the word has been used against telling you that you are not allowed to use that word?

  • If yes you should probably check your privilege and not use that word to describe yourself.