I was a Teenage Feminist

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"My response to the “I am not a feminist” internet phenomenon….

First of all, it’s clear you don’t know what feminism is. But I’m not going to explain it to you. You can google it. To quote an old friend, “I’m not the feminist babysitter.”

But here is what I think you should know.

You’re insulting every woman who was forcibly restrained in a jail cell with a feeding tube down her throat for your right to vote, less than 100 years ago.

You’re degrading every woman who has accessed a rape crisis center, which wouldn’t exist without the feminist movement.

You’re undermining every woman who fought to make marital rape a crime (it was legal until 1993).

You’re spitting on the legacy of every woman who fought for women to be allowed to own property (1848). For the abolition of slavery and the rise of the labor union. For the right to divorce. For women to be allowed to have access to birth control (Comstock laws). For middle and upper class women to be allowed to work outside the home (poor women have always worked outside the home). To make domestic violence a crime in the US (It is very much legal in many parts of the world). To make workplace sexual harassment a crime.

In short, you know not what you speak of. You reap the rewards of these women’s sacrifices every day of your life. When you grin with your cutsey sign about how you’re not a feminist, you ignorantly spit on the sacred struggle of the past 200 years. You bite the hand that has fed you freedom, safety, and a voice.

In short, kiss my ass, you ignorant little jerks.”

Libby Anne (via romanovz)

(Source: dumbledoresarmy-againstbigotry, via bookpants)

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torando:

i like wearing dresses and lipstick and everything but let’s not pretend that that desire just came about on its own. first, i was born and raised in the united states, and femininity and youth are valued here. like i’ve been surrounded by that pressure my entire life.

i was never too feminine in school, because looking pretty wasn’t effortless for me, so i didn’t put in the effort at all. i discovered feminism before this whole trend of weaponized femininity, back then, the deal was that if your value was placed in your appearance, that was a bad thing. i was told that i wasn’t here to be aesthetically pleasing to people, i was here to live my life.

at a certain point, something changed, and feminism went from that to a bunch of posts about your eyeliner being on point. so many posts about eyeliner. what the fuck. apparently it has now become a feminist ideal to hold women up to that kind of standard, because if tumblr feminists told me to wear eyeliner, then that turns wearing makeup into a feminist act. and all of a sudden my eyebrow game has to be strong?????

recently, i started wearing more dresses and taking more selfies. i wonder why that is.

i’m not saying that i have no free will, or that my confidence hasn’t gotten better lately. but at a certain point, these feminist circles became less about sharing ideas and more about sharing pictures of ourselves and captioning them “red misandrist lips representing the blood of men which i drink.” i feel pressure to look pretty when i am chilling out at home because i like getting notes on pictures of myself and sometimes i feel like my self-esteem depends on it. but idk that’s my own personal issue with like me never having felt pretty before this year or whatever.

but like…… it doesn’t matter if a feminist or my dad is telling me i need to look pretty. it’s the same message. it’s the exact same message. 

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destroymuse asked: i'm an antifeminist because if i state my opinion i am immediately shut up by feminists as misogynistic and wrong. i dont say im an antifeminist for men, i say it because modern feminism is corrupt and flows on misandry and its hypocritical.

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saintthecla:

I was thinking today about Richard Dawkins and his self congratulatory date rape tweet and the way that it creates this dichotomy of ‘assault’ and assault. But the thing is every single girl I know has a story about the boy who wouldn’t stop snapping her bra straps in 8th grade, or losing her virginity because her boyfriend asked so persistently that she felt guilty saying no, or the boy who got her blackout drunk at a party and invited himself into her bed, or giving a blowjob for the first time because the boy she was with said she would if she really liked him, etc

Every single girl I know. We all have that story of non violent assault that we’ve internalized as unimportant. And really, that’s all those comparisons do, they delegitimize everything that isn’t stranger violence and shame women (especially young girls) into thinking they’re over reacting; they normalize harassment, painting it as some kind of adolescent rite of passage instead of the sexual assault that it actually is, and feed directly into rape culture

And you know, I’m a smart girl, I’ve read a lot of feminist theory, but I was still 26 years old before anyone told me that it wasn’t ok, and I’m sure I’m not the only one. So maybe let’s be less concerned with alleviating the guilt of boys who date rape, I mean that’s what this is about right?

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